6.2.10 - To Sue in WA Australia - your story was so inspiring. My heart goes out to you. I'm sending all my positive energy to you. After talking to you I KNOW YOU CAN MAKE IT as I have done. Remember it's all about the power of positive thinking and believing in YOURSELF as well as the most appropriate help and assistance that will get you through this time in your life. Well done. Please continue sending me emails & letting me know how your life is travelling. BIG HUG 4 U.
Thanks so much for visiting my Website - I've had so much positive feedback indicating that the information provided on this site has been useful to many people - I'm very pleased to hear this as that was my intention for setting up this site. Please continue to send me emails as I would really like to hear from everyone who visits my site. I have also had orders for my books - just hang in there for a few more weeks while I wait for delivery and I'll get them out as soon as possible. Hello to my new Russian contacts it's great to hear from you.
Introduction
The aim of this website is to raise awareness of Domestic Violence. My hope in sharing my story to the world is to somehow in a small way highlight the plight of sufferers of Domestic Violence. The story told on this site is a true and accurate account of the lives of a family who lived in turmoil, how they struggled and eventually how they survived.
Domestic Violence is an issue that rears it's ugly head in the media with increasing regularity and although discussed on many levels is also kept behind closed doors. Sufferers of this insidious problem require the tools to exist and be allowed to experience the basic human right to live free.
Living a safe life without the fear of abuse, violence and retribution is a basic right for every human being, isn't it???
It wasn't easy to make the decision to share this story but during the process I found it to be a somewhat cleansing and healing experience for me. For readers of this website you will have an insight into some of the negative and distructive experiences that my family went through and some of the terrible consquences that occured for the whole family when a long term relationship of almost 20 years spiraled out of control.
I am also hopeful that the information on this site maybe useful and thought provoking in assisting sufferers of Domestic Violence to rethink their situation and take the necessary steps to turn their life around.
There are important links available that you may choose to visit. Information that could provide you with the help and advice from qualified professionals which may assist you to break the cycle of abuse which in turn will take your life in a positive direction.
You deserve to have a future for yourself and your family that is safe, happy and free of violence and heartache.
Let me state up front, I have no formal qualifications as a counsellor either medical or legal in any shape or form. I will not give advice. I welcome feedback and will respond if asked to. I am simply sharing my experiences and pointing out the mistakes I made and the traps I fell into by not seeking advice when I should and not taking the positive steps to ensure I was able to provide a safe and happy life for myself and my children.
My hope is by sharing these painful experiences and memories I will somehow prevent another family going through the heartache that my children and I went through and in some ways are still going through.
People suffer in different ways and perpetrators are skilled in the way they carryout their abuse. Some examples are:
* Constant criticism about you and your abilities as a spouse or a partner, parent or employee.
* Behaving in an over-protective manner or become extremely jealous.
* Threatening to hurt you, your children, pets, family members, friends or themselves.
* Preventing you from seeing family or friends.
* Getting suddenly angry or "lose their temper".
* Destroying personal property or throwing things around.
* Denying you access to family assets like bank accounts, credit cards, or the car, or control all finances and forcing you to account for what you spend.
* Using intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children - hitting, punching, slaping, kicking, shoving, choking or biting.
* Preventing you from going where you want to, when you want to, and with whomever you want to.
* Making you have sex when you don't want to or do things sexually that you don't want to do.
* Humiliate or embarrass you in front of other people.
ALWAYS REMEMBER:
No one has a right to frighten, hit or injure you. It is against the law.There are many laws in Australia designed to protect people who are victims of their partner's violence. The legal system can be difficult and confusing to use. For a variety of reasons, the legal system can sometimes intimidate you, and may even dissuade you from seeking the help you need. Even in the best of circumstances, going to court can take a lot of time, work and patience that is a decision only you can make but before you make these sorts of decisions you must be fully informed by expert professionals who are looking after your best interests.
It's not your fault
Believe in yourself
Sufferers often live in a secret world
Believe in yourself
Your not alone
Believe in yourself
There is help out there
Believe in yourself
You are a worthwhile person
Believe in yourself
Please ask for help
Believe in yourself
Through my experience I discovered these were some of the tools I needed to assist me through the survival process and in my recovery:
Emotional Strength - at a time when I was feeling emotionally weak
Self Esteam - at a time when I was feeling worthless
Staying safe - at a time when myself and my children were not safe
Being around people with positive attitudes and hope for the future
Police Assistance - Safety and AVO's
Legal Assistance - Safety and AVO's
Mission Statement:
I am committed to passing on helpful and relevant information which may change lives in a positive way. At present, part of this WebSite is still under construction. Information may change on this site and will be updated when required. I am endeavouring to provide useful information that may assist victims. I will update information when new information becomes available.
Take care, be kind to yourself and stay safe.
In the meantime you can contact me at my e-mail address:
I am looking forward to hearing from you and any information you share with me will remain strictly confidential. If this topic is of interest to you please read the information provided so far then return at a later date for the updated information.
The material on this website is information only – it is not legal advice. Myself and or my associates accepts no liability for losses caused by reliance on any of the material it publishes. Before acting on any domestic violence matter, phone the domestic violence/emergency contacts, or take advice from a qualified legal practitioner, or if you are in danger contact the Police immediately for assistance.
All information provided on this website remain the copyright of Linda Abraham. To reproduce any information from any page on this site permission must be granted by Linda Abraham who can be contacted by submitting your request via the feedback page or calling her directly.
This site contains links to other sites. The inclusion of a link to another site from this site does not imply any endorsement of that site's privacy policies, practices or content.
